Isnt this type of thinking in itself a character defect, known as negative thinking. Breaking down step six of aa alcoholics anonymous jason wahler. In the twelve steps, many of those in recovery from addiction or alcoholism have to address their character defects. The only exception to the big books instruction is a 5th column, whereby we identify what we can do differently in the future. Defects in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and 12. Breaking down step six of aa alcoholics anonymous jason. These incredible shares deal with this topic masterfully.
They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of. His is the step that separates the men from the boys. Moral inventory became part of deep self surrender. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves reading. For example, one can read it for all the character defects mentioned, or the promises made, or the times it says recovered rather than recovering. Alcoholics anonymous aa was founded in 1935 by bill wilson and dr. The big book explains that we must make a list that includes all our resentments we have and have ever had, an account of sexual conduct and our fears. Mar 31, 2012 alcohol is but a symptom says the big book of alcoholics anonymous. So step sixwere entirely ready to have god remove all these defects of characteris a. Thus seen, recovery is a lifelong process of surrendering the one and growing in the other. List of character defects and assets realistic recovery. My sponsor is strictly by the book he maid me start at the doctors opinion and when i got to the 3rd step prayer in how it works he asked me asked me the first to steps and i agreed then we went from there i took the third step and at once did an inventory then admitted to him and god and myself my wrongs then i was ready to have him remove my defects of character so i did my seventh step with.
I knew definitely that i drank much too much but aside from that fact i was a pretty good guy. He said, in effect if you have a resentment you want to be free of, if. They had seemed so simple in the aa big book that i had searched around to repress my character defects some other way for several years. Where are the steps outlinedlaid out in the big book. Dec 26, 2010 add a daily prayer and reflection period in which you present your character defects to god with the willingness to let god decide what to remove and when. Dealing with character defects cardinal house recovery. Sorting and rendering passages in the proprietary format of the 164 and more concordance does not in any way imply affiliation with or endorsement by either alcoholics anonymous. The chief activator of our defects of character has been selfcentered fear. During a time when alcoholism was seen primarily as a character defect and not, say, genetically determined, the big book showed alcoholism as an illness, rather than a character defect.
Flaws in our makeup is perhaps the simplest definition of character defects in the big book. They took inventory all right, but hung on to some of the worst items in stock. The prayer i mentioned, from the big book of alcoholics anonymous, is a simple and profound way to establish this attitude. Now this comes as a surprise to most addicts and their families, who are sure that alcohol or other addiction is the problem, and that if they can just get the addict to stop drinking, or drugging, or gambling, for example, that all will be well. The second edition of the seminal work of alcoholics anonymous, the big book, was released in 1955 and continues to be. Others would stay dry six months or maybe a year and then take a skid. It is the main breeder of fear, a soulsickness in its own right p. Breaking down step five of aa alcoholics anonymous we admitted to god, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. Does alcoholics anonymous work because its a form of.
Character defects in 12 step programmes wrongs, shortcomings. Core character defects 4 study from the bottom of page 63 to the end of page 65 and. Please feel free character defects and the big book soberrecovery. If god is everything, he is in my character defects. Aas are often asked what is the difference between defects of character in step six and shortcomings in step seven. Wilson and smith developed aas twelve step program of spiritual and character development, which they believed was the key to breaking the bondage to alcohol. To me that means there is a 100 forms of all of our character defects. The big book states, remember that we deal with alcohol. And so, the aa accusation that alcoholics are people unable to recognize their wrongdoings and character defects sounded familiar to me. He said, in effect if you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you. Within the 12 steps themselves character defects are referred to as.
In the business world, when a company does an inventory or balance sheet, they list the assets and the liabilities. Having persevered with the rest of the program, they wondered why they fell. All of them come from s elfishness selfcenteredness, which is the root of our troubles. Breaking down step seven of aa alcoholics anonymous jason. Some of these defects are native to my character and some are acquired. Among the positive traits, aa highlights such virtues as acceptance. In 12 step recovery programmes, selfpity is recognised as a character defect.
Lydias character defect list visit her site for updated versions of this list. They only thought they had lost their egoism and fear. Synonyms for character defects within all 12 step programmes character defects are described in a variety of ways. The big books way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67 instructions. Step six of aas alcoholics anonymous twelve step program of recovery is all about the. Removing character defects steps six and seven kindle edition by p. My sponsor had me find a new way to drive to work every single day as part of step 6. If god is everything and i believe that god is part of everything, he exists beyond my ability to know him yet i can also feel contact with him. By no means can his book be used to replace aas big book, the 12 and 12 or any other aspect of aa. It is the basic text of the fellowship of alcoholics anonymous, and has helped large numbers of alcoholic men and women, young and old, recover.
Step 6 is an important step in recovery for several reasons. Step 6 is the getting ready for removal stepthe step that can bring noticeable change when it comes to our thought patterns and behaviors. The sixth step directions are in the big book on the top of page 76 in one paragraph. Hence our reader will find many references to the runners bible in footnotes in our title the good book and the big book. Julie danenhauer on experience the big book aa meetings available online. Removing defects of character page 62 of the big book so our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. Step five of aas alcoholics anonymous twelve step program is essential to the fundamental change of personality required to overcome an alcohol andor drug addiction. In the examples given in the big book of alcoholics anonymous. The only exception to the big book s instruction is a 5th column, whereby we identify what we can do differently in the future. Four sentences that boil down to a single question. However, alcoholics anonymous is controversial for its unclear and sometimes embellished efficacy, as well as outsiders perception of its practices. Grant me strength, as i go out from here, to do your bidding. Origins of moral inventory in alcoholics anonymous. They characterize us, governing the way we conduct ourselves and live out our lives.
The opinions expressed on this page are those of the author and do not necessarily represent the views of the original way group. When breaking down step six i like to focus more on the word ready than entirely. Dec 07, 2018 it is an open invitation to partner with our higher power and make a firm decision to let go of the character defects or flaws that have been in control for years. This does not mean that we expect all our character defects to be lifted out of us as the. Want jason wahler inperson for your next gathering. Working on the seventh step requires constant thoughtfulness and commitment to being honest, courageous and humble. Like most alcoholics, my biggest character defect is fear, and specifically fear of certain financial and personal interactions. One of the things that struck me as odd about 12step recovery is that we spend a lot of time thinking about our liabilities character defects, but not somuch our character assets. It is during this step that you must be completely willing and ready to have the god of your understanding remove the character defects. Once identified these character defects can be relieved by a higher power through taking and practicing the remainder of the steps. However the word ready is a reminder that we are prepared, open and available. Steps six and seven are only briefly discussed in the book alcoholics anonymous commonly called the big book which serves as a basic text for many in addiction recovery. The inventory is of our defects, not our incidents. List of character defects for 12 step recovery work heres a list i found.
These fourth step worksheets use the wording from alcoholics anonymous the big book pages 6371. But if pride is the breeding ground of all character defects, humility is the nourishing soil of all the virtues. Within the book twelve steps and twelve traditions, affectionately know as the 12n12 by aa members, some examples of character defects are. Examples of selfishness, dishonesty, selfseeking, fear, and inconsideraton by mike b.
Removing character defects, steps six and seven 2nd. Whether character defects created the space or not, whether the wrongs are real or fancied, for us to continue to resent or refeel the anger, we are always in our character defects. The big book of alcoholics anonymous spends only a single paragraph on step 6. How does alcoholics anonymous compare with the bible.
It is also valuable to read the big book for specific topics or subjects. The big book of aa uses the word powerless once, and the word power over 65. Jul 20, 2010 does aa work because its a form of cbt. Aa doesnt require that you believe in any specific god. We think the reason is that they never completed their housecleaning. Find all uses of this word in the big book alcoholics anonymous and the twelve steps and twelve. There are 31 mentions of pride, 3 of prideful, and 1 of proud.
Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. This is a big misconception about alcoholics anonymous and one that causes some people to avoid. The first stage involves a detailed look at the acquired character defects that we are aware of at this point in the program. At first nearly every alcoholic we approached began to slip, if indeed he sobered up at all.
Reprinted from the big book, alcoholics anonymous, with permission of a. List of character defects for 12step recovery the symptoms of spiritual awakening set aside prayer 12step prayers index for the big book i am your disease promises of alcohol vs aa letting go acceptance was the answer the doctors opinion the 6 original steps in bill ws handwriting principles of the 12step recovery process recovery process. Jan 07, 2020 breaking down step six of aa alcoholics anonymous. This statement turned out to be the aa solution for alcoholism. Now we can aim at the very best of all we know or can learn.
We were entirely ready to have god remove all these. A practical guide to letting go of the character defects that get in the way of true and joyful recovery. Alcohol is but a symptom says the big book of alcoholics anonymous. Were entirely ready to have god remove all our defects of character. Step 6 worksheet better choices counseling services. This is the step that separates the men from the boys. Our character is the sum total of moral traits, attributes, or qualities that make up our moral selves. Were entirely ready to have god remove all these defects of character. Here and there, once in a while, alcoholics have had what are called vital spiritual experiences. It made me realize i had never actually done the steps 6 and 7 as set out in the into action chapter of the alcoholics anonymous big book despite having been sober 12 years. For me, and for many other aa members who have used the worksheets, the 4th step worksheets contained in this book have proved to be a valuable tool to accomplishing this inventory step. The fellowship had the same symptoms as a narcissist. Similar to when any of us have went out and bought a car, how often over the next few months do we notice that same car being driven on the road.
The 164 and more book, ebook, and web site are all concordances which display passages from the big book alcoholics anonymous, the twelve steps and twelve traditions, and the a. In the big book and beyond the most obvious difference between the big book of alcoholics anonymous and the twelve steps and twelve traditions are in steps six and seven. The character defects to be turned over to god are resentment prayer on page 552 of the aa big book. The miracle of aa the promises of aa promises of alcohol the big book. Selfishness and character defects emotional sobriety and. When the word optional is used in the worksheets, it means that the big book suggests doing this but does not suggest writing anything down. Bob, anne smith, and perhaps even bill wilson, with much of the fodder that caused them to focus on james and conclude that. I needed to go to the very brink of suicide before i realised that selfpity was a character defect that i needed to address. First printed in 1939 and 1952, respectively, both were principally authored by aa cofounder bill wilson. I like that you describe more than just praying to have the defects removed but actually acting differently even though it went against the grain.
Sorting and rendering passages in the proprietary format of the 164 and more concordance does not in any way imply affiliation with or endorsement by either alcoholics. Breaking down step five of aa alcoholics anonymous jason. List of character defects for 12 step recovery work realistic. The second stage of step six is becoming entirely ready to have god remove all these defects of character. This is a big misconception about alcoholics anonymous and one that causes some people to avoid meetings. As of december 2009, 30,664,881 copies of the big book have been sold or otherwise distributed source aa gso ny. Step 6 is a preparation step, giving us awareness of our character defects. So declares a wellloved clergyman who happens to be one of a. Origins of moral inventory aa the original way group.
This is the most modern audio version of the alcoholics anonymous big book. Take each major character defect and write three to five. Character defects are described in the big book as flaws in our makeup which caused our failure and as manifestations of self, expressions of our spiritual disease of selfishness and selfcenteredness. Defects of character program theory alcoholics anonymous. Defects of character alcoholics anonymous cleveland. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of selfwill run riot, though he usually doesnt think so. Character defects are described in the big book as flaws in our makeup which caused. Most people think of aa as a spiritual process with its main emphasis on giving it all up to god or a higher power. This thread is a listing of some of the character defects and where they are referred to in the big book as well as thoughts on each.
Character defects are defense mechanism, which add to our denial of addiction. It is an open invitation to partner with our higher power and make a firm decision to let go of the character defects or flaws that have been in control for years. When the word optional is used in the worksheets, it means that the big book suggests doing this but. The big books way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67.
The book alcoholics anonymous, aka the big book, is the basic text for the aa program of sobriety. Then fear, in turn, generates more character defects. Add a daily prayer and reflection period in which you present your character defects to god with the willingness to let god decide what to remove and when. On desire, fear and the activation of our character defects. This page is about moral inventory and its historical roots in aa. The part of the book that discusses working on character defects is called into action for a reason.289 13 172 1002 1311 237 866 1305 1097 195 132 1346 15 531 933 1226 187 182 576 685 624 77 521 449 434 803 880 704 1174 780 166 1421 527 178 1065 863 36 1281 182 1331 1413 149 378 1099 1158 1085 1037